business as usual, folks.

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 "let bygones be bygones" 

these words slipped out of my mouth as i sat down in a conversation with my friends the other day. out of all the things we spoke about, only these words which rang loudly in my ears, haunt me in my sleep and my waking hours.

more so because im the one who said it. 

to what extend do i stand by the words i have said?

i used to be a firm believer of "what's past is past" but somehow along the way, it has slipped from me. well, it is high time to incorporate back the very essence of that sentence into my life now, especially when it is ramadhan. 

i remember my mother used to say, "if you find something to be disagreeable regardless of how hard you tried to be tolerant of it, it is best to just walk away."

cowardly? not at all. there is bravery in leaving too.

but, how do you do that? 

just laugh it off and move on. of course, easier said than done. well then, ask yourself this. how long do you plan on ruminating the same thing over and over?

bear in mind, this is by no means to invalidate the emotions you feel at the time. 


for instance;

∆ you failed an interview? be it for a job or enrolling into your dream university?

cry all you want, but then laugh & move on. there are thousands of other places that will see your potential. better yet, start your own company or in the academic dilemma, make a lesser-known institution shine. only this time, with you in the lead.


∆ you meet someone you hated in the past in your favourite restaurant?

don't hate the restaurant and don't hate the person again either. laugh loudly & move on. 


∆ you feel angered that you have a better response to an argument, days after it has passed?

curse a little at yourself for being a little slow, laugh at yourself for being a slowpoke & move on. 


∆ you feel embarrassed that someone sees you failing and he/she enjoying it?

1. laugh at yourself for being silly. failures are part and parcel of life. if you see failures as the end, then you have been understanding life wrongly. the more failures you have dealt with, the grittier you will become. you'll end up nowhere if you don't have a taste for a bittersweet failure. 

2. laugh at them for having nothing better to do. 

3. only then you move on. if you gotta fail, fail spectacularly✨


∆ someone looking down on you because they believe you can't succeed elsewhere?

1. let them break their necks from looking down so much and possibly lose all will to live. they will be lying on their beds all day and now they have no other choice but to look up. 

2. don't forget to have the last laugh before you move on. you got this, champ.


jokes aside, at the end of the day, i guess it is important to find the humor and irony in every thing that landed on your doorstep, especially the negativity.

if you have been bearing it for the longest of time, now is the perfect time to acknowledge it, maybe take offence just a little, laugh at the stupidity of it all (yourself included) and simply carry on. there are much bigger things to fry.

y'know what big, profit-making, insidious corporate like to say, "it's business as usual, folks." therefore, don't let the negativity live in your mind rent-free or else you won't get a good night's sleep. 


remember, if you are harboring the negativity people thrown at you, then you are no saint yourself.

laugh & move on. 

let bygones be bygones.

for i, too, have moved on. 

p/s: of course, this doesn't apply to traumatic experiences. traumatizing experience isn't something to be trifled with. 


Sincerely, 

the author.

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